I’ve always wondered about that narrative of women who have been raped but then partake in sex work later on. Is that in a way them reclaiming themselves, their sexuality, or is it something more dark? I can’t tell if it’s an overcoming of that moment in their lives or a relived victimization of it.
Often the two are not related. People normally get into sex work because it’s work, not because it’s sex.
You do find a lot of sex workers who have been abused, but that’s because it’s a woman dominated field and statistically women are abused more.
And out of all the women who I have met who have been abused, I have never met any who went into sex work because of their abuse histories. They went into it because it was a job. The two things were unconnected for them.
Oh, I totally forgot to mention the Dutch guy sitting in the corner last night who would continuously bad mouth every other ethnic group in Europe, including the whole of Europe, which I think he momentarily forgot included Holland. But, you know, whatever, strippers don’t know about Europe.
Last night was awful
I made like 60% of what I normally make a night and the evening featured such douchebags as:
That one guy who complimented my ass and my mouth and then asked me which one I was more talented in.
That other guy who asked me to eat his girlfriend’s asshole.
That third guy who wouldn’t stop kissing the back of my neck / shoulders during a lap dance.
And my personal favorite, this kid that comes in with his two friends (one of whom was literally wearing a pair of pajama pants and texting at the stage) wearing an “I <3 Haters” snapback and an oversized button up shirt who introduced himself to me as “Cheddar” and who sat at the stage all night barely tipping and didn’t get a single dance (except for their third friend, who was dressed acceptably and did get a dance).
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This is Cypress Van Aacken, or tumblr user faeghost, the person that I’m dating. They are genderfluid, Native American, and 19 years old. They have been living with me in Indiana in my moms house (I live with my dad), but the situation turned toxic and it’s imperative that they get their own apartment, as they cannot stay with me at my dad’s either and have nowhere else to go. They’ve been looking for jobs but this has been very difficult, considering they’re physically disabled (they have fibromyalgia, dysautonomia, neuropathy, and celiac disease). They currently have a job lined up that would be conducive to their needs, however they need to leave the house by Tuesday which is not enough time to get the money they need. Currently our plan is to try and raise enough money for them to be able to stay in a cheap motel for a few days and then get their own apartment, but Cypress only has ~100 dollars, which is obviously not going to get them very far at all considering the fact that the average rent we’ve found for the cheapest apartments around is about 400 dollars a month and the cheapest hotels are around 30 or 40 dollars a night. It would be GREATLY appreciated if you could help us out, even a little, with the gigantic costs they’re going to suffer in the next few months. If you could donate just a few dollars, or even a few cents, to help Cypress out with getting an apartment, a hotel room, or even food to survive on, it would help them out immensely. If you cannot donate, it would be great if you could reblog this post to get the signal out. Please don’t let the person I love become another homeless queer PoC teen.
Him: (after I explained that I wasn’t doing something for free) I’m just a poor punk rocker from Canada.
Me: And what’s more punk rock than supporting sex workers?
Some idiot from Return of Kings.com has decided to post this absolute atrocity - five steps towards fucking a stripper. It’s exactly as you would imagine it; full of idiotic tips such as “Don’t spend money”, “Tap into her daddy issues” and “Befriend the bouncers”.
To any fellas reading this, let me just say that every single one of these pathetic methods has been tried on me before. Like, a lot of times. Every ~trick in that book has been tried on me, and then some. Do you know what I do, whenever anyone from the club expects me to fuck them? I laugh in their face. Loudly. Uproariously.
A week ago, a beautiful nineteen year old Kiwi boy tried all of these moves, and then tried to pull me close and ask me to go home with him.
I laughed in his face.
Last night, a business executive offered me seven thousand dollars to go back to his place for the evening and ‘just dance’ for him.
I laughed in his face.
Last month, a guy tried the trick mentioned in this article’s comment section - he sat front row, refused to tip me, told me with a sardonic smile (an attempt at being alpha, I assume) that I should ‘try someone else sweetheart, maybe we’ll hang later.’
I laughed in his face and got him physically thrown out of the club.
LADIES, LADIES, LADIES. Please remember who is in charge of the club, and that is YOU, that is US. We create our own boundaries, we decide what is and is not okay regarding communication and how we are spoken to, and what is NOT okay is freeloading fucking pervert morons assuming that we want to fulfil their piss-poor, boring stripper fantasies.
Repeat after me, please:
- I am not a commodity.
- I am not only a stripper.
- I did not get into this industry to cater to the fantasies of boring, pathetic little men who think they can assert dominance over me because of what I do.
- Men who come into the club looking to pick up are disgusting.
- I will do better by my industry than that.
- I will do better by myself than that.
- I will do better by my coworkers than that.
- Taking my clothes off for money does not mean I lack self respect - playing into the hands of disgusting men who do not view me as a human being, on the other hand, does.
- I will fuck people who are attracted to ME, not the person I am at the club/the idea of fucking a stripper.
- Pick up artists must die.
"Aw, that’s adorable.. you think I’m a prostitute!"
Actually important and serious question:
Has anyone ever booked a female/male stripper to perform at an event you hosted? I’m looking into booking a dancer for my friend’s surprise party but I want to know if anyone has any reviews or advice! Thanks in advance!
Hey babe. I’ve been hired as the stripper for lots of parties. There should be a few agencies in your city, give them a call and have a chat about what you’re looking for, what they can provide, what you need to organize and how much etc. Private parties can be a lot of fun if it’s a respectful crowd, so check what the rules are and make sure your guests are aware of them before the stripper arrives, that way they can concentrate on entertaining everyone x
And don’t forget to tip her on top of the hourly fee, keep in mind the agency will take a percentage of that. ;)